October was a month of mixed emotions, lessons, and God’s gentle reminders. I recently saw a video by Tabitha Brown where she recalled the theme song from the old show The Facts of Life: “You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both, and there you have the facts of life.” And that’s exactly what this October has been for me — a blend of good, bad, and everything in between.

As a working mom, balance doesn’t mean giving everything and everyone an equal share of your time—it means learning how to stand strong and prioritize. Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re about protecting your peace. In this blog, I share what I’ve learned as a Christian therapist and mom about how to create margin, prevent burnout, and give yourself permission to pause. Because your worth isn’t in your work—and your “no” can be just as holy as your “yes.”

In my two years as a Christian counselor in private practice, and three years before that as a high school counselor who happens to be a Christian, I’ve learned a perspective that has completely shaped the way I show up for my clients and walk out my calling:

Agreement and acceptance are not the same.